Grace, Forbearance, and Love

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.    – Proverbs 15:1 

The wealthy Nabal refused to give food to David and his men, even after they had helped protect his shepherds and his flocks. David was on his way to wreak vengeance upon Nabal and his household when he was met by Nabal’s wife, Abigail. This wise and discerning woman’s soft-spoken way (and the food she brought) convinced David to think of his future and his service to the Lord and allow God to deal with Nabal in His own way (1 Samuel 25). 

David’s inner emotional anger almost led him to give an outward expression of wrath. Abigail’s soft words diffused the situation. It is the wise person who speaks softly in tense situations. He or she knows when to speak and when to be silent. The fool, however, does not control their emotions and seems always ready with a response whether it is appropriate or not. 

Dr. H.A. Ironside said, “It is impossible for man to estimate aright the power for good or evil that lies in the tongue. A kindly, gracious word will often disarm a most ill-tempered and wrathful man; while a sharp, cutting remark has frequently separated friends dear to each other for years.” A little grace and forbearance, mixed with love, may be the softness that is needed. 

In a nation that seems to have forgotten what it means to have a gentle spirit, and where wisdom is met with foolish words that add fuel to the flame, stand firm with grace and love. Pray that local, state, and national officials would be led by God with wisdom to diffuse heated situations and bring resolutions quietly and safely.